- On Wednesday’s episode of “Call Her Daddy,” Anna Kendrick opened up about her past relationship troubles.
- Kendrick said she went to couples therapy to figure out what was wrong with the relationship.
- While couples therapy has its benefits, experts say it’s important to find the right therapist.
Anna Kendrick I did not have a good experience in couples therapy.
On Wednesday’s episode of Alex Cooper’s “Call her dad” podcast, “Pitch Perfect” The star said she was in a 7-year relationship that turned abusive.
“He didn’t follow a traditional pattern, which is another reason why it was really hard for me to identify him and call him abusive,” said Kendrick, who did not name her ex.
“So I thought it had to be me. Like, if one of us is crazy, it must be me,” she said.
Kendrick, 39, said she “turned her life completely upside down, trying to fix everything that was wrong” with herself.
However, going to couples therapy did not resolve the situation. “It didn’t help for a long time, our couples therapist, I mean, he just bought his stuff hook, line and sinker,” she said.
She said her therapist later apologized after he “realized what was going on” toward the end of the relationship.
But after yelling at one therapy session, Kendrick said “something changed” and “things ended pretty quickly.”
Later in the episode, Kendrick said that despite not having a “great experience” with couples therapy, she made it a requirement that all future partners have experience seeing a therapist.
“I never mess with a man. That means we don’t even kiss. We won’t even have a real conversation—unless you’re in therapy or have been in therapy.”
A representative for Kendrick did not immediately respond to a request for comment from Business Insider sent outside regular business hours.
How to know when to move on from your therapist
Couples therapy has multiple benefits for a relationshipincluding better communication, rebuilding trust and increasing relationship satisfaction.
However, there are signs that couples should move on or find another therapist.
Licensed therapist and social worker Jillian Amodio previously told BI that therapy can be hard work. “But even so, it shouldn’t be something that’s stressful or a meeting that you dread going to,” she said.
Experts also advise people to walk away from their therapist if they find themselves withholding information out of fear, forming an unhealthy attachment to it, or unable to integrate what they’ve learned into their daily lives.
In addition, it is important to know when to completely pause therapysaid Colleen Marshall, a licensed marriage and family therapist in San Francisco.
“People should be able to go to therapy, learn whatever they need to learn, go away, go live their lives, and then come back again if something else happens,” she said.
“They shouldn’t be dependent on therapy for their entire lives.”